More parents react to issue of kids party invites

Dear Enraged Mum, I was quite surprised by your letter ‘Invite all kids to your party or just don’t have one’ (November 23), as I was wondering if we are living in the same world. Unfair policy? Exclusion? Bullying? Get the school involved in a private matter? Come on…. why on earth should it be any policy to have all the class at a birthday party? I can tell you from my experience (three boys) that not all the kids get along together… but that’s OK, that’s life. A birthday party is a private matter. Schools should not be involved in private matters. Yes, it is heartbreaking to have your little one crying because she is not invited to a party. But remember that life itself is unfair (in many ways). I consider that my duty, as a mother, is to teach my children that you cannot always get what you want, that sometimes you get frustrated. Then maybe, with a lot of love and a little frustration, you can raise decent human beings who will not be completely selfish. No enraged mum, UAE Dear Enraged Moma, if you think your child not being invited to a party is a road to bullying then you’re clearly living on another planet. Your daughter is learning two valuable life lessons: 1. Not everyone gets along; 2. Yes it’s Dubai but you can’t go to every social gathering. If I was organising a party for one of my children I definitely would not invite the entire class for the simple reasons of cost and that I would only want my child’s friends to attend. Even at 5, children know who they like and who they don’t and they are pretty good judges of character. If your daughter has been excluded twice maybe you should ask yourself why. Reality Check, Dubai